Personal experience:
I told this guy whom I dated for some time, that I want to venture few things and he said no on the spot. Well, clearly that is "his" opinion. There was no "our" opinion as he didn't discuss it with me though I tried to explain him on how important that matter is for me. I think you can guess what would have happened now. Yes, I dumped him.
Why must I sacrifice my happiness and the important things in my life for someone who doesn't even bother seeing things in "our" point of view? Well, let me explain what "our" point of view means. When it comes to "our" point of view, the pros and cons need to be discussed. If you say no to something then you need to tell me why. If you say yes then you need to tell me why as well. Of course, I have to explain myself as well on why I want to do it and for god damn sake you gotta listen to it!
Then the decision whether or not I should pursue something I wanted, can take place and that final decision will be "our" decision. Being in a relationship is not easy guys. Don't take it for granted.
Why I dumped him is easy to be explained. I want a happy relationship. "My" opinions make me happy. "His" opinion doesn't make me happy. "Our" opinion will make me happy.
So if a guy is not ready for "our" opinion stage and would rather stick with "his" opinion then I would rather wait for "our" opinion type of guy and be happy with "my" opinion by being single for the mean time. I don't need "his" opinion to ruin my happiness. Headache? Yeah I got that too after reading my own statement! LOL!
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